• Kratzkopf@discuss.tchncs.de
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          I wonder what you are referring to as well. Also ‘weaponizing discomfort’ sounds like something inappropriate while actually discomfort is a real thing and no one has to stand for it (in a certain degree). Not caring at all if you are causing others discomfort is the definition of selfishness. Recompensating somebody with a big tip, because you are a dick doesn’t make you less of a prick.

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            It would be better phrased without ending the sentence with a preposition, such as, “Sorry, I do not know to what you are referring.”

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              Okay, cool, you did understand me though, yeah? Gonna explain what you meant earlier? The feeling of being scolded for something I said and not knowing what is one up with which it’s hard to put.

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                And just to reiterate a little more clearly, my whole point is your feelings are on you. I am responsible for my actions and words.

                If shame was that valuable, fox news would have had us doing their dirty work long ago.

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                  All I’m hearing is “If my shitty behaviour as a tourist in your country towards people in the service industry makes a person in the service industry feel bad, that’s their own fault (also here are some truisms about connection that seem neither here nor there)” and I SERIOUSLY hope that’s not what you’re saying.

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                    1 day ago

                    Im saying its weaponized discomfort to not like a tourist because they wearing a hoodie, shoes and shorts. Service staff is there to make money and serve, not shame people for their dress.

                    Also, I love you. Let’s run away together.