• far_university1990@reddthat.com
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    4 months ago

    but the alternative is just assuming every man is a piece of shit.

    If bad experience so common that community exist, maybe that not bad solution. Always take second person to date, always take self defense thing, etc.

    Men not known as creep before date by someone in community or maybe friend. Always take precaution could protect against creep even if unknown man.

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      4 months ago

      I just dont date men, don’t smile around men unless it’s mean or im wearing a mask, don’t compliment men even on innocuous things unless they’re like half my age or younger, and yeah, i think about exits a lot.

      This is a superior solution, because it actially works and does not make me a target for that garbage gender’s bullshit.

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          4 months ago

          Nope. It’s how i deal.

          If i compliment a man, it won’t stop hitting on me until i get violent or gross.

          If a man sees me smile it might decide that was flirting, so i only smile in cases where it’s very very clearly not.

          And i absolutely don’t date them; im not cursed to have no other option sexually, so why the fuck would i defile myself with that one?

          The exits thing is mixed with other stuff, various ptsd sources, but i expect I’d have put it together just existing around so many monsters like that.