it’s actually a lot easier to find a partner who guides you on the right path of life through love and support instead of just being abusive
Fuck, I love being single and living by myself.
This is funny because some women have this mentality where sex is a tool to wield. Other view it as a humiliation ritual that men need to go through for several days, sometimes weeks until the “mood strikes”. There are pros and cons to both but I think most men would prefer the former.
Personally, I prefer dating a woman who has sex with me when she wants to because she wants to. Fuck these manipulative head games.
Anon learns the joys of being a pet
When you put it like that… 😅
Pet does not sound too bad, sex is optional.
Weird. I had the opposite experience.
Used to have gfs. They constantly nagged me to don’t work out, to not get a better job, to drink, to smoke, and party. oh and don’t have friends they don’t like and don’t do anything that doesn’t involve them. i was always trying to get us to get better jobs, take classes, try new things, try new places, etc. They would have NONE of it.
I’ve been single 6 years and my salary has gone up 250%. in the decade I was dating women… it went up like 10%. and i am fitter, stronger, have lots of cool hobbies and i volunteer a lot. And when I try to date… i just meet women who think all that shit is gross. I also have pets and own a home. More stuff my gfs always told me I was an asshole for wanting.
I grew up in the country where lots of people are like this. As an adult, I’ve always lived in cities. I’m some odd amalgamation of the two, perfectly content in not chasing goals but also hyper vigilant in avoiding people that enable poor health decisions. It’s quite a zen life, to be honest, but I often come upon people who work both extremes: pushing me toward unhealthy habits or pushing me toward more prestigious paths, assuming depression. I don’t know; I’m just happy to be healthy, competent, and well fed.
And, I’ve always been single, having never been compelled to try. When you don’t intend to have children, the calculus changes. I would enjoy having the full human experience, but my outlook prevents me from making that choice.
Also note that i’ve observed that there’s whole swaths of areas which seem to have the same/similar personality type. Like, i grew up in some backwards country village, and all the people there seemed to have a very specific type of mentality that i didn’t share (which is why i hated it there). Note: i was an immigrant child. After moving to the big city, i met much more like-minded people, and everything got better.
My lesson is: In some areas, even large parts of land, people are very similar and if you don’t get along with them, it’s probably best if you move somewhere completely else instead of trying to stay and make friends with them.
I know you aren’t asking for advice but many people search for partners in places that only have 1 type of person. For example you don’t look for a wife at the club or you don’t look for a party animal at church.
Sounds like you are looking for a certain type of person in exactly the opposite place you should be looking.
kind of toxic post ngl
“I can fix him”
fixes him
Then he leaves her for someone “who doesn’t nag” and is more exciting.
There is no fixing here, this is an armed bomb
This is what extreme responsibility avoidance looks like.
Yeesh. What’s the girlfriend getting out of all of this? Seems like a lot of work to run someone else’s life in addition to your own.
I believe OPs story is how it originally worked in a lot of traditional marriages. Women stays home but keeps a close eye on any business activity her man does. Since he earns a lot of money when he’s productive, she tries to keep him productive by pushing him in the right way. That’s how marriage worked. That was a long time ago, however, and such a strategy would not make sense today because people rarely stay together long enough for such a game to pay off for the women.
“I can fix him”
I already get all that shit at work, minus the “go to gym”, I don’t need it back at home, thanks
ADHD folk - just get an SO that can manage your bs brainhole shenanigans, ez win(-win?).
I sent this to my GF because it aligns with our relationship and works great. She reminded me to call the dentist to get my root canal done and I know she’ll remind me again when I invariably forget because I hate dentist but love dicking her down.
The guy just discovered female led relationship. If he likes it, it is like a heaven.
Meh. It’s more finding the person that compliments you. Your SO should compliment you so your weaknesses are less pronounced and likewise you should do that with your SO.
A rising tide lifts all boats.
Are those divorce bells I’m hearing?
Why would they divorce? It sounds like OOP is doing everything his girl wants.
Because nobody wants to be married to a child.
Cause she will get bored and he will be never good enough
“she will get bored” a.k.a. she is young and wants to make lots of different experiences in life.
what if she’s older and has already made these experiences?
op found a mom for himself.
It’s clearly a step-mom if anything.
(Tho op didn’t actually specify Jocastas family details.)
Having a partner in life makes a huge difference to motivation. I dont really agree with this idea of them leveraging things to force you to act that sounds like a living hell. These things should come naturally as you desire being the best version of yourself for your partner.
These things should come naturally as you desire being the best version of yourself for your partner
how i knew i could marry my wife, i wanted to do this.
Amen brother.
