Rule #492 do not call women your own age a hag
Generally avoiding calling women hags is a good idea.
Reading brainrot girlfriend has made me desire this.
What’s brainrot girlfriend?
Oh fuck, I recognise like… Four things here? I’m old.
What’s the buckle my shoe thing? That’s a really old song, no?
It is, just got really popular on tiktok for a couple months.
This is how I perceive the 28 year old to be.
My partner’s sister is 19, I’m in my early 30s now. But I met my partner when she was 19, I often ask myself did she come across as this annoying to people in their 30s back then?
Yes.
40 year old here, dating a 19 year old, consensual D/s relationship: she is not for talking. You place a collar on her and then tell her what you want to hear. They need training before they’re good at anything.
Police? This one right here!
Hi! Sorry to inconvenience you, but I have just one question. The fuck did I just read?
Either the most unwholesome Dom and sub description iv ever seen in my life or a rape fetish relationship?
Either way as sonic would say. THATS NO GOOD
Exactly! Why the fuck would anyone want to date someone that much younger than them? I will never understand why so many men want to date girl so young.
younger partners are easier to control.
and less worldly experience means they won’t notice their dull personality.
lack of maturity and life milestones to date similar age ranges.
over emphasis on bodily needs.
and i repeat, control.
They do it because the primary motivation they have for seeking the “relationship”, for lack of a better word, is mostly concerned with indulging in the form/condition/use of the person’s body and has little concern for the form/condition/use of the their personality.
This means, of course, that any other time they have to spend with the person, that doesn’t involve indulging in hedonistic physical pursuits, will be a constant reminder that they have little in common with, and no interest in, the mind/personality of the person they’re diddling at all.
People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
What I mean I’ve been alive a long time. I’m not sure how I was supposed to accrue resources through that though.
Also who wants to date a 19 year old they’d be really annoying.
Maybe you need to flip the idea and date a rich 19y/o Instead
Wait, but I thought men hated “gold diggers”? And also, that’s the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
People make life choices based on how things are, not how they ought to be.
Generally a “gold digger” refers to a young woman who marries an elderly rich man with the intent of gaining a large inheritance, not a young woman who marries an established (but still working) man a few decades her senior with the intent of raising a family. A big “gold digger tell” is that the rich guy already has adult children who end up in a feud with his new young wife (because she represents a threat to their inheritance).
Oh really? I thought it ment a women marring for money in general.
People can do what they want, but women shouldn’t have to feel like they have to marry some dude a decade older just to have a decent life and start a family. That’s all I’m saying.
I mean, i’d like to date someone that much older than me.
Why? (Genuine question if you feel like sharing) Like, I too prefer older partners, but not that much older.
Honestly, because i’m a 20 something year old man with no life experiences and I don’t know how to survive on my own. Someone older with more experience who would be willing to teach me would be nice. It’s a big ask I guess. I don’t really know what else to do. I’m lonely and i’d like to meet someone kind, caring, and beautiful who can be a friend, lover, and teacher if you will. I haven’t told anyone this because it makes me sound desperate and like a lost cause.
Ah, I see. I understand. That’s a big part of why I like older partners too.
A friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…
I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.
I agree with this. For me, so so much integral growth happens between ages 20 and 26-28 or so, and I don’t really think people in general know who they are or what they want in life until then. Not true for everyone of course. All the people I know who married young are either divorced or super unhappy though so it may skew my perception a bit.
really just garbage man-children
It’s a green-text, we knew that from the get-go
Yes, but even people who don’t go online much, even people I actually do care about in my own life, still fall into that category. The people I care about tend to be much nicer and wouldn’t call someone a hag but they do lack a certain level of maturity. Green-text makes it near certain but it’s a “not all rectangles are squares” situation.
Oh, but all rectangles are squares if we shoehorn a non-standard metric (this comment has absolutely nothing to do with the thread and it’s just a dumb math joke).
Oh 100%. I knew a guy that was my age, that was always trying to date younger, because no women our age would deal with his bullshit. So… I guess I do understand, huh.
For real. When I was 24, I dated a 19 year old for like two weeks. They were really nice and interesting, but ultimately the age gap proved to make a relationship unviable. I can’t even imagine a nine year gap at that age. Gross.
As an adult for most dating your peers is preferable to dating younger adults. I don’t want to hear “So what was the gas crisis like?” on a date ever again (IDK what it was like I was 3).
> be me 34 > decide to look for a hag around my age > most of them have at least one kid, usually the annoying kind, and only see you as a babysitter > same ones are also super focused on their kids, no hobbies, no interests, no life > most of them seem to be super conservative > some of them are so bigoted they can only talk about "those people" > finally found someone who's bearable for more than 20 minutes > never mind, she's alcoholic > finally found someone not alcoholic and is bearable for even more time > never mind, she's both 300+km away and also married How do I find hot singles on the fediverse? I'm not reinstalling Tinder!I tried that with Reddit. Parents cockblocked me. Had nothing but my missed life to think about in the meantime, so my mental health slips, and I ask who besides Serial killers and rapists deserves to die (looking for a description of myself in the answers).
Implying someone’s life is worth more than others is a big no no on Reddit.
Get permabanned for inciting violence.
Nothing but your missed life? You can live a lot of life without a romantic partner, as much I very much understand it can still feel lonely at times.
I missed my entire life. It’s not all about that. Though I also regret not experiencing what everyone else did. The mistakes, the heartbreaks, you know, normal people stuff, that’s mostly FOMO. What really sucks is I actually missed out on almost everything that makes life worth living. So, now I’m just in the mindset that I should just treat the good things of this world as false, and something that is meant for rich/normal people.
I’m just here to work, and fight. I need to make sure no one else ends up the same, ever again. Until then, there’s no point in resting.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant, and putting my mission first.
How old are you? You can learn an instrument at any age, my dad learned how to make pastries in his late forties, and there are so many other fun skills and hobbies you can develop pretty easily. You may have missed stuff but you’re still alive and that means you are the one in control of what you are actively doing or not doing right now. Drowning yourself in self-pity isn’t going to do anyone any favours. You can look back at what you missed for the next 30-40 years or you can forward to what you can get done in that time.
I’d also love to know what this “mission” is and I hope it doesn’t have anything to do with being mad at women and has more to do with shit like worker protections and wealth equality such that people can live their lives to the fullest.
I could no doubt eventually learn everything, if I was not being terrorized both at home and at work. As a matter of fact, I sneaked a peak at how to play the piano once. I didn’t get far of course, because I’m afraid to even touch it. I am 29 years old, and watching the last of my twenties evaporate, trying to get someone else out of debt, as they make stupid decisions and say they will make it up to me once we get money. I have no doubt they can make money, they may even get us rich, but I don’t care about money past a certain point.
If I had a decent tablet, the Laptop I have, some solar, peace, and free time, I would eventually solve all of my own problems that can be solved.
EDIT: Oh yea, you were interested in the mission. Most of my notes are a scizo-like mess of what I want to do, but one thing that stands out is that I want to help people become as self-sufficient as possible, as I think that will help them escape abusive circumstances.
No one to exploit: the oppressive system collapses. Why do you think those in-charge are so desperate to make people work? It is simple: all of their power comes from a sort of blackmail.
Now, if a worker is secure, they can choose their job. They won’t be pressured into doing unethical things, because they won’t have to think about their and their family’s survival all the time. They will have a lot more time to socialize, and become more pro-social.
They will be able to protest, to organize, to become candidates themselves. TPTB depend on almost free labor to build their infrastructure, armies, and exploitative institutions.
What happens when the “peasants” can just say “actually no, I’m fine with my garden and small income”, what then? They will have to raise anti-independence laws, and antagonize the “peasants” until those “peasants” ask themselves: “wait, why do they have the right to just take my stuff for free?” and they start resisting.
This applies to all levels of society. Abusive spouse? You can survive on your own, just leave them. Abusive family? Toxic co-workers? It’s not like you need food from them, you can grow your own.
We’re the same age. Maybe not in the same situation and I can appreciate that, but as far as time as concerned you’ve got a lot more life to live. I started learning mandolin a year and half ago and can play pretty competently at jams and stuff now. If it’s music you’re looking at, I’d encourage sitting at the piano with a song you like and playing along with it. It doesn’t need to be an expert rendition or any, and honestly a lot of people actually forget that messing around is still practice. You got a lot of time, our lives have barely even started my dude, it just can feel weird since of our nearly thirty years we were kinda just going through the motions of going to school and stuff, not having a lot of personal control, etc… In reality we’ve barely have probably 8-10 years to do much about anything and we should have many decades ahead of us, each also able to build off the last in ways that the “first” decade could only dream of.
And yea, as far as this “mission” goes those are great values and ones I stand up loudly for regularly. Not sure what they have to do with this thread or your original comment or anything but yea. Self-sufficient is also a fine idea, but I would aim to also make communities self-sufficient. The owner class doesn’t really have skills, just money, but we all have knowledge and tools and ability. I spend a lot of time helping my friends fix their homes and cars and stuff(and teaching them that they can do it, too) and if someone needs to be moved I’m the guy to call. Building resilient, connect communities will go a super long way to reach the goals you’re after.
You should be able to stand on your own two feet, before teaming up with anyone. Trade is fine, co-operation is a very good thing, but you should always be able to primarily live from your own means, and trade with others should always be considered a luxury that can be taken away at any time.
We don’t and can’t own people, so we should not depend on them. As you can see, even our basic needs, our basic humanity can be denied.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant
If that’s how you see yourself, imagine what people think when they don’t even know you and meet you for the first time. Focus on what you have to offer other people, not what other people have that you want.
It’s just even when I’m focused on other people, anything I can do, is just second rate to the average person. If they try, they can always do it better than me.
I am temporary support for most people who are friends with me. I do a good thing here and there, and after that dries out, they lose interest.
Who told you there was anything at all you could do in your life that there wouldn’t be something better than you at? Why do you let that stop you from doing anything?
I have friends I worry about daily, which sometimes gets in the way of self-improvement. I have a very rigid schedule that I’m like, failing right now. I work 9 hours a day, and get up at 5 AM. I have to pay off my mother’s debt, or she is screwed. She works for an abusive company, and I put up with abuse in order to get her out.
His date:
Source: Brainrot Girlfriend
It feels wrong to read manga-style art left to right.
The whole comic was brain rot talk that i didn’t even notice it didn’t narratively connect.
Took me like 5 mins to figure out what was wrong…
Love that we’re making imaginary [gen-z/gen alpha/gen whatever the hell arbitrary title] the same way our parents and grandparents made imaginary millennials to get mad at.
The Silent Generation called their kids “Generation Me”
It was “The ‘Me’ Generation” not “Generation Me”. Generation ____ starts with Copeland’s Generation X book.
The Silent Generation was correct.
OP is still on 4chan. Lingo aside I’d say he’s in his maturity range.
4channers should probably just stay out of the dating pool entirely.
Also 19 and 29 are both still Gen Z.
Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?
The lines are fuzzy, and that’s why we have the term “Zilennial”. So let’s just toss them into that category and call it a day.
I date/have sex with who I’m physically attracted to. Otherwise I’m OK if we just stay (non-sexual) friends. Us having stuff in common doesn’t make me horny for them or want to romance them.
If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.
That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I’ve been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I’d like deeper relationships (I’m poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it’s so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they’re still friendly. However I’d not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I’ve not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don’t live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.
Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren’t already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.
I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I’m not in my 20’s unfortunately.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I’ll admit I’m trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20’s… but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a big city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford.
Yeah. I was living in a ratty townhouse inside Houston’s Beltway 8 with no less than four other roommates way back in 2009. It wasn’t always great, but you can’t argue with $300/mo rent. When I moved out with my then-girlfriend, I was immediately paying more than $800/mo. And then rental prices skyrocketed, so we found the first affordable home we could grab and locked ourselves in.
I will say this about roommates. Between the four of us, we were either going to a house party someone knew about or we were hosting one, pretty much every weekend. Great way to meet people.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well.
Small is relative. You’re in a place with north of 50,000 people and your odds of meeting someone go way up. Live in a big city with 2.4M people and the odds are even better, of course.
But I found a nice little beach volleyball spot about 20 minutes drive from my home. Never had a hard time meeting other people while I was playing.
As long as we agree with each other on politics.
the new religion
What does that mean ? mid fr fr ? doesn’t fr mean for real ?
Mid must mean “underwhelming”
And big mood ? that’s very obscure
I think it means something like “this is ‘mid’ (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it”. “fr” seems pretty similar to how a lot of use honestly/“to be honest”/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
I think big mood is a relatable mindset
And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.
They have nothing in common. There’s no way. It’s pure physical attraction above all else.
A lot of people are downvoting this because a 19 year old is an adult who can make their own choices and you are insinuating that there’s something so objectively wrong with dating an older person that it should be illegal.
I am not in any way suggesting it should be illegal. I don’t think I mentioned that once.
What I am insinuating that if you’re that young dating someone much older, there is almost always a massive power imbalance between the two in the relationship, romantically, and so it’s a very difficult thing to overcome.
If you’re a 30/40/50+ year old person dating a 19 year old, there is usually something wrong with one party, the other, or both in that scenario. A 19 year old, romantically, is not mature enough or at the same place in their life as a 50 year old person. This will, at best, strain the relationship significantly as each partner will want something different out of life as the relationship progresses.
If they don’t, then one of them is likely a deeply broken individual. And that’s usually going to be the much older person that’s got some issues happening.
The 19 year old truly doesn’t know any better, or thinks they do, or is getting something in trade like security from the much older person and they’re willing to give up other aspects of their life in trade for this.
I’m 54 and most of the people I know are in their early 20s. We get along great and have plenty to talk about.
You don’t date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.
Though I’d date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.
Meh, I won’t put strict age limits on sex. Relationships? I can guess what would and wouldn’t work for me, but the world is a big place and people are wildly variable.
Idk man. Isn’t screwing someone fresh out of high school a bit creepy? I mean come on, they were considered a kid maybe months ago. It’s suspicious if you do that.
One night stands are just animals fucking basically.
It only gets weird one there’s an actual relationship and unbalanced power dynamic going on.
But part of being young is being stupid and fucking something you shouldn’t have is basically stupid 101
Sure, but there’s a difference between hanging out with some 20 year olds, and being romantically involved with them.
The latter requires a hell of a lot of maturity and being in a similar place in life to deal with things life throws at you. The former just requires laughing at some meme together you both find funny.
Agreed! But we had solid conversations, deep and involved. I was astonished at how mature and educated they were, forgot what I was like at that age.
I’ve found papers I wrote for school in my teens, thought, “Oh boy, this is gonna be some bullshit.” Read them and was surprised at my understanding of the world!
Guess my point is, I will never undersell the youth, not ever again. Dating someone half my age, meh, can’t really see it, but I do see it as possible for some.
That’s fair, and I would never say that youth are idiots or shouldn’t be listened to. That’s not true at all, I think they can have many valuable things to contribute to society, the conversation, the world, etc.
I’m strictly speaking about them as a romantic partner with such an age gap, especially one that starts when they’re 17/18 and the person they’re dating is in their 30’s or more. Nobody can convince me that that would be an equal relationship for both parties. I’ve attempted it in my late 20’s dating a few 18/19 year olds, and then again attempted it in my mid 30’s and it was a significantly worse experience.
They weren’t bad people in any way, or stupid, or immature in the pop-culture sense of the word. But the relationship was never going to work out, and it was because no matter which way you slice it, a mid 30’s man and a 19 or 20 year old girl are not at the same place in life. If they are, then it’s the older person who never grew up and is still behaving like a teenager.
All agreed! At 52 I considered a relationship with a 26-yo friend. If she didn’t have 3 tiny children, maybe? But no, just couldn’t see it working. I’d be 80 and her at 54? I’d be robbing her of her youth when she could have had a younger man to share that life with.
Funny enough, my Filipino wife is 6-months older than I, and she was fucking horrified to learn that. Her friends are all married to white dudes 20+ years older. Cultural thing. :)
Sometimes trading partnership for security is the way people go. I’m not saying it can’t work, but it’s rare that those partnerships are equal. The power imbalance is on display.
Lol I got downvoted for saying the same shit. Glad I’m not the only one who can see this.
Acquaintances/Friends and “dating” are not the same.
Only saying, we had far more in common than I had thought. I was replying to someone who said winter/spring relationships are only about physical attraction.
What if you like having sex with your friends?
Then that is really fucking hot.
Nothing wrong with that, but they’re friends. I get a long with coworkers, clients, etc, but inside a romantic relationship is completely different.
Yeah, I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is nearing 50. His oldest child is the same age as my younger brother. Believe it or not, people can have common interests that aren’t entirely reliant on their age.
Though I will say that age becomes less relevant as you get older… A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is pretty universally creepy, but few people would say the same about a 49 year old dating a 39 year old. Same age gap, but it’s assumed that the 39 year old has enough life experience to actually make their own decisions. Even in my mid-20’s, I was looking at 19 year olds as if they were literal children. There’s a lot of maturing that happens in the late teens and early 20’s.
You mean in the late 20’s and early 30’s. Not a lot of maturing until 25.
Edit: this assumes middle-european living and cultural conditions.
That depends on a lot of factors, e.g. whether they go to college or start working or doing trades directly after highschool.
Half your age + 7 is a reasonable formula for determining creep factor.
No, a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is still creepy.
The age it lands on is always the grey area age. If youre 19 dating someone 16.5 thats weird but 17.5 most wouldn’t bat an eye at.
I mean, maybe 17.5 and 18+, idk about 19. What’s the brain difference between some six months of people? You could have been in a perfectly fine relationship before also.
Or both sides like to learn from each other and grow towards each other over time?
There are worse reasons why an extreme age gap is seen as creepy, “not knowing each others interests” is not one of them.
I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.
Maybe she was rich and could stay high and watch musicals for the rest of her life. What a lucky girl she was.
Not in the slightest. She was already 12k in credit card debt when I met her.
That’s the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap
Ngl I’m 29 and definitely prefer getting high and watching stuff than actually doing real things.
I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I’m 29
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn’t interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I’ve ever had but I won’t deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it’s like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30’s, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
I’m 41. The idea of dating anyone below 30 is a no-go let alone an 18 year old. I agree that anyone above 30 going for fresh high school grads is strictly in it for the unequal power dynamics and questionable sexual proclivities.
In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he’ll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
Men who like to date older definitely exist!
The brainrot is real, even with “old hags”. My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new “memes” that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.
