What does that mean ? mid fr fr ? doesn’t fr mean for real ?
Mid must mean “underwhelming”
And big mood ? that’s very obscure
I think it means something like “this is ‘mid’ (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it”. “fr” seems pretty similar to how a lot of use honestly/“to be honest”/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
I think big mood is a relatable mindset
I have not heard someone say “big mood” in years
i say it al the time lol
Anon’s girl is already falling behind
Big mood!
OP doesn’t understand what cultural progression is. Of course different people gonna do stuff differently as time progresses, the class she was when you where in high school is just irrelevant.
This is the case where op just has skill issue, and is stuck in the past like a boomer he is.
When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be “hip” or “trendy” to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations “Boomers” just makes you sound like you didn’t pay attention in history class.
Language transforms. Where before boomer would be a word for the generation born during the babyboom, nowadays it’s used for old people who are unable to keep up with the times.
I mean I guess, but we have generations named for a reason. Calling everyone that’s old a boomer just makes you sound like you don’t know what you’re talking about IMO. To each their own I suppose.
Born in the 1900s? What’d you do before they invented fire? Ride dinos?
Ironic…
Would you say that for someone underage? Age is age, gap is gap.
OP is still on 4chan. Lingo aside I’d say he’s in his maturity range.
Also 19 and 29 are both still Gen Z.
Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?
The lines are fuzzy, and that’s why we have the term “Zilennial”. So let’s just toss them into that category and call it a day.
4channers should probably just stay out of the dating pool entirely.
Reading brainrot girlfriend has made me desire this.
What’s brainrot girlfriend?
Oh fuck, I recognise like… Four things here? I’m old.
What’s the buckle my shoe thing? That’s a really old song, no?
It is, just got really popular on tiktok for a couple months.
Can’t fathom calling a 28 year old a hag 💀
My man just wants to fuck children.
Late-stage brainrot
Anon isn’t down skibidi style
Getting head while on the toilet?
He doesn’t know
I actually vibe more with the generations after me than my own; but I would find it creepy myself to be with someone who isn’t relatively close to my own age.
When did we as a society give up on the “½ X +7” minimum dating age formula?
Just FYI, this rule falls apart after a certain age (in the 60s or 70s).
After that age, the older party is essentially a lottery ticket
laughs in Medicaid
That’s not the only thing that falls apart in your seventies, eyyyy
This reminder me for some reason of how my grandfather cheated on his wife a few years ago and had a heart attack during sex. He’s like 80 or so.
When you have heart procedures/ surgery, they tell you, “no sex for 6 weeks with your spouse, 8 weeks with anyone else.” Theres science backing up the extra strain/excitement of having sex with someone else
But honey, the doctor said I could have sex with other women if I waited 8 weeks after the surgery, so it’s not cheating!
Gotta look after your ticker if you’re going to stay active at that age. Condolences and/or congrats to his wife though.
Condolences indeed, he’s still alive.
Sigh, ain’t that the truth.
Nah I think it holds up. Bill Belichick, 73, was in the news for dating a 24 year old and it’s not only as creepy and gross, but also like she’s taking advantage of him by inserting herself into his interviews.
If he were dating a 43 year old, I don’t think anyone would be nearly as concerned.
I mean, once you’re both above 30 who fucking cares
When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.
What’s interesting is this rule apparently originated from the early 1900s.
Ah, so “half your age plus seven” wasn’t the low end, it was the target.
That certainly re-frames things.
Exactly, this “rule” is really just equivalent to other forms of snake oil there is. It is baseless and completely made up.
It matches experiences, if you read the other replies.
I don’t quite agree with the replies. The statement “it matches experiences” is baseless as stated in my other reply.
In general, experience ≠ age. This is because experience is influenced by various physical factors such as opportunities, learning environments, etc. Not exactly by age.
Found Leo’s account.
Seriously though why so hostile about this? Of course it’s made up, it’s a general rule of thumb, and it describes whether people are likely to look at a couple and say, “ew”.
One day I mentionned this rule while having a dinner with friends. One of them was a woman I met fir the first time.
It turned out his husband was way older than this rule allowed when they met. And now that the rule is fine, she didn’t felt bad about her husband.
Seriously, I felt so shitty. Let people loves who they love without discrimination as long as this is consensual between adults.
That’s because it’s all based on assumptions and projected morals. Commonly treated as a ultimate truth not as a “rule of thumb” as it is destined to be - hostility is built in this “rule”.
In general, this rule essentially dictates the ethics of independent people. Because of this there is no description, it’s a requirement to say “ew”.
Probably about the time that we decided that a certain age means you’re an adult and can, in fact, make decisions for yourself
Wow that actually makes sense.
But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.
The clumsy portmanteau of facebook and derelicts if I had to guess. That one is just dreadful. Go with Facebougoise or something, The Faceborg maybe (I actually like that one), something like that.
Just for a little context, the minimum age being ((your age / 2)+7) is meant to be “this is the minimum age of someone you can date without it being creepy” (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)
If you were born in 1994 you are either 30 or 31. Let’s call it 30 for easy math.
30/2 = 15 15+7=22
So anyone who is 22 or older fits the minimum age concept, which is anyone born in approx 2002/2003 or earlier. If you decided to include that, the extra 4-5 years does increase the dating pool quite a bit.
I’m not telling you who to date, just giving a little context to the math since that’s what was brought up in the original comment.
Also, for the maximum age they are the younger one. So assuming age is 30, substract 7 and multiply the outcome by 2, maximum date age is 46…
(i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)
Although the provenance of the rule is unclear, it is sometimes said to have originated in France.[81] The rule appears in John Fox Jr.'s 1903 novel The Little Shepherd of Kingdom Come,[84] in American newspapers in 1931 attributed to Maurice Chevalier,[85] and in The Autobiography of Malcolm X, attributed to Elijah Muhammad.[86]
In many early sources, the rule was primarily presented as a formula to calculate the ideal age of a female partner at the beginning of a heterosexual relationship. Frederick Locker-Lampson’s Patchwork from 1879 states the opinion “A wife should be half the age of her husband with seven years added.”[87] Max O’Rell’s Her Royal Highness Woman from 1901 gives the rule in the format “A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven.”[88]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships
See I didn’t know that was the origin. I like it better as an outside boundary.
That’s really interesting, thanks for sharing!
It had to be a thing before how I met your mother, I remember it being a thing during school in the 80-90’s
No one knows the true origin of the idea but there’s a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.
The first published example is Max O’Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901
I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.
Interesting, though this sounds like it’s not supposed to be the minimum age, but the ideal age.
Interesting stuff thanks for adding. I added an edit to address. Appreciate you chiming in
Invert this rule to get the maximum age you can date (defined as the person whose minimum age is your current age):
min age = (your age / 2) + 7 max age = (your age * 2) - 14
If you’re 30, then you can reasonably date people between 22 and 46. So the other guy can add even more years before 1990.
to those who downvoted, why?
Because of this part:
they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together
…those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts.
You’re being very assuming with people and that’s why the downvotes.
Not every person will be “TikTok addicted” or “Facebook-relicts”, you’re just assuming they are which is only affecting your own chances finding someone.
Try just getting to know someone first before you start assuming about their interests or what they do.
… and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together…
Who says you have to spend time with your SO’s siblings for any great length of time? Parties and holidays you can get through, but it’s not like you’re going to go live with the family.
You and your SO should both have your own friends and hobbies (in addition to joint friends/hobbies). I’m not trying to crap on having a relationship with your SO’s family, just that it’s not mandatory.
I feel like removing these two arbitrary requirements would vastly increase your dating pool. I get that people are looking for traits in a potential partner (doesn’t smoke / drinks / poly / not-poly / uses Arch) but the ones you’ve picked are just self limiting
Nothing ever changes.
I date/have sex with who I’m physically attracted to. Otherwise I’m OK if we just stay (non-sexual) friends. Us having stuff in common doesn’t make me horny for them or want to romance them.
If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.
That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I’ve been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I’d like deeper relationships (I’m poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
As long as we agree with each other on politics.
the new religion
I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it’s so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they’re still friendly. However I’d not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I’ve not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don’t live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily.
Best of luck. But yeah, the 'burbs are absolutely awful for meeting people who aren’t already settled down. Live in the city with the cool single people! I did that all through my 20s and liked it so much I never left.
I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I’m not in my 20’s unfortunately.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I’ll admit I’m trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20’s… but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a big city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford.
Yeah. I was living in a ratty townhouse inside Houston’s Beltway 8 with no less than four other roommates way back in 2009. It wasn’t always great, but you can’t argue with $300/mo rent. When I moved out with my then-girlfriend, I was immediately paying more than $800/mo. And then rental prices skyrocketed, so we found the first affordable home we could grab and locked ourselves in.
I will say this about roommates. Between the four of us, we were either going to a house party someone knew about or we were hosting one, pretty much every weekend. Great way to meet people.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well.
Small is relative. You’re in a place with north of 50,000 people and your odds of meeting someone go way up. Live in a big city with 2.4M people and the odds are even better, of course.
But I found a nice little beach volleyball spot about 20 minutes drive from my home. Never had a hard time meeting other people while I was playing.
Generally it’s hard to connect with such an age gap but it does work sometimes. On those occasions, the natural genuine, and mutual draw transcends the age gap.
I’m 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the “Half your age plus 7” test
(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though
@ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I’m a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I’m starting to get Greg hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.
God damn it Greg!
Yeah, at 27, 22 was already like too young for me. Let alone 20.
Half plus seven is just a rough rule of thumb, that tries to capture some different concepts at play.
Personally, I never liked dating across major life milestone ages like 22, college graduation. The mid 20’s are just an important phase in developing one’s personality and sense of self, and being outside of the school environment is an important transition to learn. So when I was 30 I had a hard cutoff at 25, as I didn’t want to be with anyone who still identified with being a recent college student.
I felt like a very different person as between 18 and 22, and between 22 and 26. But 26 wasn’t that different from 30, and 30 to 35 only saw some slight changes. It’d be hypothetical because I was already in a committed relationship after 32 or so, but when I was 35 my cutoff probably would’ve been late 20’s, and when I was 40 my cutoff would’ve probably been around 30.
I’m just a bit older, but been there.
I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and… yeah, I don’t think I can do this y’all.
“My girlfriend did this test and I think its broken? Her minimum age is higher than her starting age”
I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn’t interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I’ve ever had but I won’t deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it’s like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30’s, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
I’m 41. The idea of dating anyone below 30 is a no-go let alone an 18 year old. I agree that anyone above 30 going for fresh high school grads is strictly in it for the unequal power dynamics and questionable sexual proclivities.
In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he’ll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
Men who like to date older definitely exist!
Maybe she was rich and could stay high and watch musicals for the rest of her life. What a lucky girl she was.
Not in the slightest. She was already 12k in credit card debt when I met her.
That’s the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap
Ngl I’m 29 and definitely prefer getting high and watching stuff than actually doing real things.
I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I’m 29
Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?
Mate, who hurt you?
I never considered that the ages stack
That will turn OP into OP (Peace be upon him)
